3 days ago


3 client calls this morning and now off for a 6 mile run. 🏃‍♀️
3 client calls later and the last of my online group sessions later. 😊 Has it been 6 weeks already?!

And to think, this time last year, I hardly had any regular clients or income!

People come and go, but many stay. I’m grateful to be part of people’s neurodiverse journey and thoroughly love what I do.

I do not, however, not love the prospect of going out for a run in the cold rain. But my ADHD teenage twins have just told me they are impressed with my dedication so now I have no choice! Doh! 😫
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5 days ago


I’m researching school exclusions for children with special needs for a third party blog and I’m feeling sad. Children with SEND are 7 times more likely to be excluded than those with no SEND. 45% of permanent exclusions and 43% of fixed term exclusions have identified SEND yet only 15% to 17% of the school population have unidentified SEND. And what of those who have unidentified special needs?

‘Persistent disruptive behaviour’ is the highest stated category, accounting for 34% of the exclusions and this can be low or high disruption - usually a combination of the two. It is easy to see how our fidgets, wrigglers, stimmers, impulsives and sensory seekers fit into this. Those who struggle to comprehend, concentrate and socialise too.

�Needs don’t go away just because we refuse or aren’t equipped to identify and support them. Unmet needs lead to unwanted #behaviour and mental health difficulties. Most mental health issues surface at the age of 14 and 75% of moves to alternative provisions happen in the first 3 years of secondary school. 🤷🏼‍♀️ The behaviour iceberg (what we can see) might be more evident in the early stages of secondary school where 75% of transfers to alternate provisions take place in the first 3 years. But I suggest that the iceberg is being formed and reinforced much earlier. We can do something about that can’t we?

We must look deeper to identify the cause of the difficulty and support the child rather than condemning each act and punishing behaviour. Don’t get me wrong, some actions warrant exclusion and some children need specialist placements from the start. It is a shame many have to fail in mainstream to secure these though isn't it?!
Our children with additional NEEDS are at higher risk of exclusion which suggests a systemic and an ideological problem and a significant need for training .

Sorry for posting, deleting and then reposting. I couldn’t believe what I had written and was doubting myself. I’ve attached link to sources for those who would like to know more.

More on this to follow. 🙂





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1 week ago


🥰Happy Valentines Day🥰

In this house, Valentine’s has always been a family thing.
When Vicki (#Autism and #ADHD) was 13, she felt left out and sad on valentines, so I bought heart shaped lollipops and we had a nice dinner as a family. Each year is different because the kids increasingly have their own lives, but we all shared valentines texts this morning and those that are around will eat together later.

May you all enjoy your Valentines Day - no matter what it looks like.
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A day in the life of a young offenders employee with ADHD

I love helping people and I am passionate about people seeing the positives of ADHD and other co-occuring conditions. Personally, if there was a button I could press to get rid of it I would build a protective case around it. I would never press it. But my friends might at times. I would get rid of the bi-polar though. I don’t like that.

There is a young offender in my area. Street robbery, violence and many other things. He has been arrested over 50 times. He was in our custody suite. I said hello as I walked through as I recognised his face (looks like butter wouldn’t melt). I say “Are you alright?” His mum, sat there all savvy like, says “No you gonna get him an officer, we’ve been here two hours, he’s got ADHD and gonna kick off soon.” I looked at him and said “No he won’t.” He looked up at me very confused. I said “I have ADHD, it don’t make you kick off, it makes you easily bored and frustrated, but it is your choice if you kick off, not ADHD.” He looked gobsmacked. I said, “Do you have a phone?” He said, “Yes.” I said ,“Have you got games on that phone?” He said, “Yes.” I said, “Why don’t you play on it until you get bored then play a different one and a different one. Listen to some music, do a dance. But there is no way kicking off will be happening and be related to ADHD.” I went and found an officer and the boy was fine. I think he is normally able to trick people. I sat with mum, who I believe also has ADHD and went through stuff, and listened to her for two hours. So it went over my shift. Oh dear. Still, I saw that kid a couple of weeks later with his mates. I said hello to him, he smiled and said hello back. Needless to say he doesn’t normally do polite to kids. So I knew my little seeds had been planted. I do hate people blaming that stuff on ADHD. We are never going to get real understanding and support if people go around thinking everyone with ADHD is violent. Grrrr. It is just coping mechanisms to help combat the frustration, lack of confidence, risk-taking that gets us there. If you lock us in a room with nothing we might kick off quicker due to needing to be active. But even the most patient kids/adults would kick off over time. It’s just that our fuse is smaller. Our confidence is non existent. So we expect to fail. So our barriers are higher than others. Its all common sense to me. Sorry, waffling again. I am a bloody pain.

I do hope our kids get more help and understanding then we did. So there’s less adults running about with anger or confidence issues or mental health issues that are there from all those years of self doubt. Makes me sad.

P.S. I ain’t saying folk with ADHD don’t kick off. I’ve seen it enough times. I just mean if we can give them coping mechanisms to stop it getting to that point, then there’s no need for them to feel upset.  But sometimes it’s inevitable. But it’s mainly from frustration.

Anonymous to protect all parties